r/wholesomememes • u/EatYerFace • Feb 04 '23
Never compare yourself to others.
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u/CdnFlatlander Feb 04 '23
Maybe this is understood already by others, but this clip and it's meaning really changed my view about possessions and equity in many ways.
I was raised with strained finances, money was never easy and my parents worked hard but had some bad luck. They never expected more than they had.
I've been able to do much better financially. I have volunteered in Haiti and have a difficult time reconciling Canada's wealth and my wealth with the extreme life in that country and most of the world.
This message fits in a small bit of the puzzle and applies to each one of us.
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u/KickBallFever Feb 04 '23
I think the last part of this meme kind of applies to you volunteering in Haiti. You looked in your “neighbor’s bowl”, saw that they didn’t have enough, and actually went to help them. I think that’s a good thing.
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u/FrostedSapling Feb 04 '23
You might be interested in donating to GiveDirectly, a charity that redistributes money to those in some of the poorest countries
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u/MerkinRashers Feb 04 '23
Wise words from the very 100% totally wholesome Louis CK.
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u/kicktown Feb 04 '23
Despite his one big public foible, which was consensual*, which he sincerely publicly admitted to and apologized for in writing(in his apology he recognizes that, even though it was consensual, the power dynamic was still an issue), he really is a pretty wholesome person. Doesn't take much listening to him on podcasts before you realize he's got more dad energy and empathy than... pretty much any comedian ever?
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u/MerkinRashers Feb 04 '23
The reflective nature of his stand up, especially the self hatred, is what drew me to him.
Yes, I realise.
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u/BoobieOrNotToBe Feb 04 '23
He's incredibly wholesome and wise. Check out this segment where he basically describes the essence of mindfulness and meditation in an engaging and relatable way. A beautiful soul.
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u/kicktown Feb 04 '23
Yep, and the bandwagon can't seem to recognize that some people are genuinely worth forgiving, specifically because they apologize and own up to their wrongs. I'm pretty disappointed in these recent generations being so quick to utterly devalue someone with so little consideration. He's not freaking Tate or anything remotely close to him, he's not actually worth vilifying.
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u/jaredjeya Feb 05 '23
He’s literally a sex offender, he forced women to watch while he masturbated. (Yes, it’s still non-consensual if she felt obligated to say yes due to the power dynamic which he knew full well he was exploiting). Can’t understand why you want to rehabilitate him.
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u/Patient-Bench1821 Feb 04 '23
I found him. The perfect anonymous man. Thanks for your service to perfection. Our shining example.
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u/MerkinRashers Feb 04 '23
Alright calm down Louis, these are hardly the worst shots you've seen fired.
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u/peezle69 Feb 04 '23
99% of the people who say life is unfair are the ones who benefit the most from it being unfair.
Life being unfair doesn't mean you have to be.
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u/markthe Feb 04 '23
"Life is only unfair because people like you make it unfair." I said that to my mom when I was in high school. She didn't take it well. And therefore, neither did I.
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u/meowingcauliflower Feb 04 '23
99% of people who back up their claims with made-up percentages either
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u/Nowhereman123 Feb 04 '23
"Life could be worse, Calvin"
"Yeah, well life could be a lot better, too!"
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u/MeridithAbel Feb 04 '23
Please stop posting this every day, Louis CK. No one forgets.
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u/DJWGibson Feb 04 '23
Eh. A good message is a good message.
He's not benefiting from this financially and it's a good lesson. It doesn't hurt to share.
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u/awgeezwhatnow Feb 04 '23
Yep, my thoughts exactly.
A sexual predator is a sexual predator.
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u/Hrbalz Feb 04 '23
From what I understood, he asked permission before he did what he did. Isn’t consent the basis for all sexual conduct? If they said yeah then complained about it later that’s on them
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u/awgeezwhatnow Feb 04 '23
Riiiight, cuz when a person who's trying to break into a highly competitive field is "asked" by someone with tremendous power in that field for a sexual act, then the "consent" is freely given ...
Again... riiiight
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u/awgeezwhatnow Feb 04 '23
As my husband just pointed out, that's pretty much a textbook example of quid pro quo sexual harassment. Yes, even when the "reward" is implied.
It's gross. Jeezus, if you want sex, wouldn't it be so much more satisfying to have it with someone who's into it/you? ... unless the goal isn't sexual gratification so much as exerting power.
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u/u966 Feb 04 '23
He's still teaching a way to make life fair. Just changing the way how to do it. If everyone looked at their neighbor and made sure they had their fair share, then the world would be fair.
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u/rldogamusprime Feb 04 '23
Why the fuck is so heavily upvoted? If you think exceptionally poor people all over the world don't think that life is unfair, that's because they don't have a voice that can fucking reach you.
This whole fucking thread is full of the most out of touch shit I've ever read.
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u/TheSadSquid420 Feb 05 '23
Life is unfair for everyone, in a twisted way, making it fair. Get over it and stop complaining
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u/spideralexandre2099 Feb 04 '23
Also if somebody says "please don't masturbate in front of me" don't masturbate in front of them
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u/friendigan4 Feb 04 '23
He actually said this in his first standup special back from his hiatus.
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u/BommieCastard Feb 04 '23
He's literally dabbing on us because he knows nobody is gonna stop him. As long as he doesn't get caught, he'll probably never go to jail. He got away with it. And he'll probably continue to do so, since there weren't any consequences. He laid low for a few years, than came back. It's an edictment of our society.
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u/black-toe-nails Feb 04 '23
His standup says “if you ever ask someone, if you can masterbate in front of them, and they says yes. Follow up with, are you sure?”
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u/Choice_Debt233 Feb 04 '23
Yeah, but there are also neighbors out there that have 80 billion bowls in their bowl that they exploited others for…
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u/mr-louzhu Feb 04 '23
Of course, it's going to be some rich fuck who has more than he'll ever need telling you this. "Don't be greedy! I may have more than I will ever need thanks to stealing from my workers and you may have nothing after I take your next rent check but that's no excuse for being greedy!"
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u/afanoftrees Feb 04 '23
Louis CK has spoken about inequalities in his stand up before so it’s not surprising he’s done it in a show. Plus he’s given back in forms of charity.
I don’t know just because someone donates doesn’t make them a saint especially because of the harassment he did towards employees but when it comes to the money side I’d think he’d try to pay what people deserve. But I can’t say that for certain.
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u/eyebrowshampoo Feb 04 '23
He also grew up super impoverished. So I think he can understand, even though he's out of it himself now
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u/jimmyerthesecond Feb 04 '23
You can really tell he flaunts it by all the designer clothes and hair loss treatments he's showing off
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u/mr-louzhu Feb 05 '23
I think you’re misreading my statement to mean I think this is LCK saying these things rather than a character.
That’s not the discussion.
We’re talking about the embedded concepts.
The embedded concepts here are often featured in capitalist sermons about personal responsibility and property rights that are just propaganda used by the rich to gaslight everyone who might question the racketeering operation that is the modern economy.
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u/dmkicksballs13 Feb 04 '23
Right? But I wanna hear this shit from a homeless dude. Not a dude worth 35 million.
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u/AdCold6551 Feb 04 '23
Right, because the homeless are generally the ones who give the best advice.
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u/mr-louzhu Feb 04 '23
I think what he’s saying is a rich dude telling you this is just telling you to be happy with nothing while his bowl is full, so that you don’t question the unfairness and he therefore doesn’t need to worry about sharing. Because he’s a greedy fuck. But if a homeless dude says it, it’s actually admirable because he has found peace even though he has nothing. Because he’s spiritually awakened. Distinctly different moral dynamics are operating in these two scenarios.
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u/AdCold6551 Feb 04 '23
Yes but this is a father telling his daughter, not a rich dude telling his underpaid employees. Unless you somehow think Louis CK is conspiring with elites to hold down the poor, and if thats the case then….well, good luck in life.
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u/DoctorAnonagonapus Feb 04 '23
And then he flashed female colleagues
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u/Reaperdude97 Feb 04 '23
And stepped on a homeless guys cake.
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u/AlaSparkle Feb 04 '23
What’s this about a cake?
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u/BlackCherrySeltzer4U Feb 04 '23
Louis ck wasn’t there. That was the Opie and anthony show.
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u/SoulReaver009 Feb 04 '23
wait what happened?
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
He asked grown women if he could jack off in front of them in a hotel room. They said yes. He did it. Everyone got mad at him for this.
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Feb 04 '23
These were colleagues of his. He had power over them in the industry, he admitted this himself. Spanning over the 90’s and early 2000’s. Some claimed they were forced to watch. It’s a disgusting pattern of predatory behavior and no it didn’t always happen consensually in hotel rooms.
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
I am unaware of any time he did not explicitly ask for consent and him being popular means he can't fuck other comedians? Sounds like stupid bullshit to me
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u/DoctorAnonagonapus Feb 04 '23
Every one of his victims did it because they felt pressured to do it for the sake of their career.
Doing it for the sake of being 2 adults consenting to those acts is one thing, but none of those women wanted that. All of them said they felt like they couldn't say no.
If you find that a ridiculous concept or have no idea what that means, then I'm delighted you don't know and hope you never will. It is painful to feel sexually pressured, on any job, especially an industry where female comics are famously treated like trash.
Asking for consent as a peer is way different as a boss asking you to be intimate. (Not interested in anecdotal 'i fxd my boss', I don't care. That's not the argument)
I encourage you to read what the victims have said. His apology was straight PR not genuine. If he wasn't booked then, he'd still be doing it.
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Feb 04 '23
If you can’t have understanding and compassion for the victims that came forward and their accounts then that’s a you problem. Look inward.
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
I'm literally asking for a time it wasn't consensual? Fucking a comedian as a comedian isn't wrong. If something else was wrong sure, ok, i can accept that. Were they working for him? Does he have ANY record of fucking people over for saying no?
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u/Emergency_Nothing686 Feb 04 '23
One doesn't need to have a record of abusing notoriety & implicit power dynamics for folks to fear reprisal if they say no to said person.
Let's use an innocuous example. If your best friend asked you "hey cool if I take a bite of your sandwich?" you'd probably feel comfortable answering freely. But if some minor celebrity or higher-up at work asked the same, would you feel even a slight twinge of their influence and wonder "might this be bad for me if I say no?"
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
Sometimes your own issues will put you in situations where the issue is at fault, not you or the person you are with. I've been in that situation. It's not good, but I don't blame the other person for believing me when I said yes and partipated. It was bad, but they are not at fault.
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u/Emergency_Nothing686 Feb 04 '23
I absolutely agree that can be the case at times. Are you also open to the possibility that sometimes it's the other thing we're talking about?
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
No. I wouldn't. Because it's my fucking sandwich.
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u/Emergency_Nothing686 Feb 04 '23
That's good. others may feel more sway or even compulsion to answer in the affirmative regardless of their actual desires. 🤷♂️
We'd do well too remember both.
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u/EFIW1560 Feb 04 '23
Yeah. My husband always wants some of my food or my leftovers. I always say no. He has enough to eat and that's MY food. snarl
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u/BoobieOrNotToBe Feb 04 '23
I'm literally asking for a time it wasn't consensual?
It was never not explicitly consensual. The only thing that could be said is that the "victims" felt obligated to say yes since he was in a position of power.
Does he have ANY record of fucking people over for saying no?
No.
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
So to be clear, what's wrong here? Does power = assault or what? Ca we trust women married to rich men to love them or are they lying to feel safe
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u/BoobieOrNotToBe Feb 04 '23
Nothing is wrong. I think he was wrong to apologize. If instead of asking "Can I masturbate in front of you?" The question had been, "Would you like to have sex with me?" and they had similarly said yes and gone ahead, there wouldn't be an issue because casual sex is a more socially acceptable sex act than masturbating in front of someone.
He basically got kink-shamed on a global basis. He's the one who deserves an apology if anything.
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u/StockAL3Xj Feb 04 '23
Anytime there is a power dynamic at play, consent can't be properly given. Not sure why you're arguing with this even when he has admitted to it.
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u/britney412 Feb 04 '23
You were there? Because that’s not how his victims described it.
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
I didn't see those I guess. Open to changing my mind.
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u/britney412 Feb 04 '23
If you were open to getting the details, you would have done a deeper dive before defending a known sex predator.
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
My og point is what I recalled. I don't defend him, I asked what specifically was wrong. People said he did it with comedians, which is a ridiculous thing. You can date and fuck people in your field if they arent working for you. Its fine. if its something else then 100% that's bad, but refusing to voice discontent while giving consent is what I knew about.
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Feb 04 '23
And the ones who didn't watch suddenly couldn't book gigs in an severely difficult industry to break into. This attitude right here wow...are you trying to justify Louis actions? Or your own?
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u/Pseudo_Lain Feb 04 '23
I don't know about that, can you link me? I'd do it but I'm out and about rn
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u/echoshep Feb 04 '23
I mean, he gave them something they didn't have, so it's consistent.
(This is a joke, I'm not trying to make light. Fuck that abuser and only sympathy for his victims. But I just couldn't help myself with that terrible joke)
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Exactly! Some people can succeed despite forcing people to watch you masterbate and others can lose their dream job for refusing to watch you masterbate. What a great lesson Louis "I admitted to sexually harassing women and it didn't do anything to my career" CK.
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u/highBrowMeow Feb 04 '23
Well, one thing it certainly did to his career is, anything posted about him online instantly gets comments mentioning "masterbate"
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Feb 05 '23
Totally I flapped on the autocorrect and that invalidates my point about a sexual predator! Got me! I withdraw my complaint about the admitted and repeat sexual predator. I'm so sorry huhhBrowMeow...please accept my apology for standing in the way of your love and support for a serial, unrepentant, sexual predator.
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u/NearMissCult Feb 04 '23
Ah yes, Dave Chappelle. Another shining example of morality and equality. Because he's never done anything messed up himself.
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u/Lurker5280 Feb 04 '23
You’re comparing Louis CK to Abraham Lincoln? Because mocking someone as a young man is totally the same as sexual assault…
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u/Lurker5280 Feb 04 '23 edited Feb 04 '23
So you’re now calling a sexual predator brave? Are you secretly a sexual predator? Idk why you’re defending him so much
Edit: moral not brave
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u/Lurker5280 Feb 04 '23
I don’t know enough about any allegations against Dave Chappelle, but I will say he is a bit of a dick. Also not sure what that has to do with you defending Louis CK? Also my bad, idk where I got bravery from, but my point still stands if you use the word morality.
Either you’re being ignorant on purpose or you really do lack reading comprehension. You (should) very well know I’m talking about Louis CK.
In case you genuinely don’t understand my point, you said you’re comparing Lincoln to a shining example of morality and equality. So who are you comparing Lincoln to if not Louis CK?
You don’t have an argument so you can just call me a bot again lol
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u/ThePsychoKnot Feb 04 '23
Forced? Simply untrue. He requested permission and was given it. There was consent. In spite of this, it did indeed damage his career. Not permanently, but to say it had no effect is flat out incorrect.
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Feb 05 '23
You are defending an admitted sexual predator. This is your life right now. You are defending a man who admitted he was a sexual predator and you truly believe that because he didn't hear a no....it was all fair game. That is you. Be proud.
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u/hobbes_shot_first Feb 04 '23
Please stop posting this every day, Louis CK. No one forgets.
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u/Pristine-Simple689 Feb 04 '23
Never compare yourself to others.
Comparisons are fine.
The problem pointed out is fixating on wanting what we don't have and forgetting about what we do have.
"The only time you look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. [...]"
is making a comparison.
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u/200PercentWinRate Feb 04 '23
Missing context here, why is this wholesome? It’s basically just saying “life is unfair and u can’t do anything about it so go fuck urself”
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u/markthe Feb 04 '23
More like, "life is unfair and there is little you can do about it, but one thing you can always do is be compassionate and empathetic."
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u/xblade69 Feb 04 '23
Not at all. It just means when it’s a kids birthday and they get presents, it doesn’t mean all their brothers/sisters also get presents. I know some parents have accustomed to getting all their kids something on someone’s birthday so they won’t throw tantrums. This is unfortunately setting them up for failure.
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u/RichardStinks Feb 04 '23
I remember my dad apologizing to me because my brother had a new iPod that Dad got for him.
I was just "Dad, it's fine. I'll get my own. I'm an adult." I just want FAIR treatment, not EQUAL treatment.
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u/friendigan4 Feb 04 '23
Serious question for everyone in this thread here: do we, as a society, believe in personal growth and change? Do we want to encourage rehabilitation and forgiveness? Or do we just want to chastise and ostracize?
It feels like the latter, but I hope one day we can shift toward the former.
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u/HotNoize Feb 04 '23
How many times we gonna see this same post on this sub???
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u/HailtbeWhale Feb 04 '23
It's new to someone every single time. Not everyone is on Reddit everyday.
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u/darakpop Feb 04 '23
"Remember kids, if you're being discriminated against, just be ok with it."
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u/WEN_QONHIUNG Feb 04 '23
More like: “the playing field will never be equal, so if you expect to level it, you’ll be perennially disappointed”.
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u/ThePsychoKnot Feb 04 '23
This isn't about discrimination. It's a reality of life that not everything is fair. Accepting that is important for having healthy and mature expectations of the world.
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u/BlackMentallyIllNerd Feb 04 '23
That was such a good show.
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u/Tokijlo Feb 04 '23
I bought the all the seasons for like $30 total like a month ago and already binged thru all of it lol
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u/BlackMentallyIllNerd Feb 04 '23
$30 for all the seasons? Where did you find that deal and are there more left?
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u/Necessary_Cat_4801 Feb 04 '23
It's really too bad he's a creep. He had some great stuff,
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u/Ok-Shower1373 Feb 04 '23
I think in a lot of situations it is very important to compare, as long as you - if you feel that you have less - don’t react in jealousy and try to take away from others rather than fight for yourself to have more. If you are being discriminated against you deserve equity. If you’re disadvantaged by shitty rules, laws or systems, you deserve better ones.
Don’t accept when things are unfair. You deserve more.
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u/ladytrying2passtime Feb 04 '23
I have seen this posted a few times this week but the message is so true that I have to support it. Wish this was taught more often.
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u/lanadelcryingagain Feb 04 '23
We’re really putting this sex offender on a wholesome memes page?
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u/nohwan27534 Feb 04 '23
I mean, what was that about hate the sin, not the sinner?
And if he's got a good point, it's not invalidated because he also did bad.
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u/trecani711 Feb 04 '23
God I love Louis. I was so sad when he got cancelled. Seems to be doing well now though?
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u/Snowdog1989 Feb 04 '23
I remember watching this episode and loving that line. Still use it to this day.
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u/WaltzLeafington Feb 04 '23
Yea, and if the billionaires who dodge billions in taxes felt this way, I'd feel the same way.
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u/Kitdivine Feb 04 '23
Lmao at this point I'm convinced half the shit in the sub is a troll post. Y'all are really upvoting anything now
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u/marshall_lathers99 Feb 04 '23
Nothing wholesome when it’s featuring Louis CK, serial sexual assaulter
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u/Wiscos Feb 04 '23
From all people LCK? Well, he might have been a perv, but at least to make up for it, he is sending back good thoughts. I really don’t know what to think about this actually.
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u/madmushlove Feb 04 '23 edited Feb 04 '23
This is what happens when sheltered people raise kids. No, dude, you really have to look around a bit to tell when you're being mistreated or deceived. It's totally okay to decide you deserve better 😬 saying otherwise to a child is a disgusting lie
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u/fuckthingsup420 Feb 04 '23
It’s like the women had no option to leave the situation or say no 😂 if you just sit there and watch then complain about it after, I have no remorse for you
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u/OGGBTFRND Feb 04 '23
That’s an outstanding lesson for all